What we see

Similarity and differences lies in the eye of the seeker.Depending on what our mind expects, we look for specific things in others.We choose what we want to see...We try to look at how the other person is different,when we are scared of others.When there is similarity,we are filled with love.It is still a paradox,as how we blame others for what we see in them.When the bowl is impure ..even if holy water is poured in it..it turns muddy.What ever we miss in our life we search for it in others.May be trying to be self sufficient will reduce our own judgemental projection of biases.
Mirroring is one of the ways through which we fulfill our deepest desires.Psychologists say that through mirroring we can cover our deepest scars which life has given us.But to find people who mirror what we want and not take advantage of our vulnerability is very difficult.Mind is also looked upon as a mirror.
Can we be our own mirrors and give necessary affection and care for own well being?
I guess the highest love is self-love.To accept ourselves and not get scared of who we are.