Blocking the unpleasant

Sometimes I feel our mind creates so many problems which haunt us for the rest of our life.The emotions ,expressions which surround us everyday pose us so many questions.As a kid I used to watch people getting hypnotised by magicians.I used to get scared that these people can control us and make us work like programmed dummies.But I feel we go through emotional hypnotism a lot of times in our lives.A stranger who is rude to us in the morning controls our moods for such a long time.This hypnotism is not something which others inflict on us ..but its the contol we give to others.This emotional hijacking of sorts takes place a lot of times in our lives.From the time we are born our parents and teachers try to influence their thought process on us.We are constanly challenged when we are young to behave properly and not hurt our loved ones feelings.But the know how of the world gives the adult the necessary knowledge to decide why ,when and whom we give the power strings of our emotions.A wrong pull may slide us into a place which would make us do things which sometimes compromise our very fabric of morality.I have personally been through a lot of situations in which I had been controlled with the help of "strong emotional black mail".Sometimes when we are infactuated by a idea or a person we think we make the mistake of letting go of the responsibility of our own emotions.This discussion actually comes down to our insecurities and basic impulses.If you are a dependent person then it would be very hard for you to take a decision which goes against a loved one.The constant thrill or initial enthusiasm wanes away and we are left with our raw self.The floating mind hits the ground.But I have a strange intutive feeling which tells me that people who love you and respect you will always support you ,even if you make decisions which may go against their view of the world.The only thing is to surround yourself with people who give love unconditionally without any conditions.Such love when shared between family,freinds or lovers is the highest form of devotion and it helps you grow as a divine being.